Sberbank finds out how Russians avoid home conflicts during self-isolation

May 21, 2020
  • 52% of participants in Sberbank’s survey on Rambler website have home conflicts during self-isolation
  • 40% of respondents resolve their home conflicts reasonably
  • 16% of respondents are annoyed by self-isolation; money issues behind 11% of blow-ups

May 21, 2020, Moscow — Sberbank and its ecosystem companies have analyzed how Russians avoid home conflicts in their families and with their partners during the self-isolation.

The survey that was carried out by Sberbank on the Rambler website on May 11-15 showed that the family members that are self-isolated together have blow-ups and home conflicts often (19%), sometimes (33%) or never (48%).

Answering the question about the reasons behind these blow-ups, 24% said that these are home issues such as sloppy manners, high expectations of family members, or their own; 16% of respondents were annoyed to be self-isolated without leaving their homes. The money issue was behind 11% of blow-ups. The increased pressure as you have to work remotely, take care of children and the house were the reason for conflicts in 7% of cases; 6% of respondents said that they lack mutual assistance of family members; 5% mentioned their children’s bad behavior; 2% cannot focus on work during the self-isolation. As much as 29% of respondents had other reasons.

The survey participants also spoke about the way they resolve these conflicts. For instance, 40% just need to discuss the issue or watch TV, read a book etc.; 23% don’t even try to make up, everybody is aggrieved, and the conflict lasts for several days; 10% of respondents lock themselves in a separate room/on a balcony/in a bathroom; and 8% phone or use apps to talk to their friends and relatives.

In families of 7% of respondents, members break dishes and scream to calm down, the same number of people take their dogs for a walk or go to stores. Conflicts resulted in physical assaults in 5% of respondents’ families.

At the same time, 65% of those who took part in the survey are self-isolated in an apartment, 19% stay in a house or the countryside, and 16% still go to work so nothing has changed for them.

Olga Markina, clinical psychologist, Ph.D. in Psychology, head of DocDoc’s supervisor support for COVID-19 Hotline specialists,

“Strategies for resolving family conflicts can be both productive and destructive. The dominance is doomed to failure, since a partner’s needs are ignored (5%), ignoring leads to a temporary waning of the conflict, but it turns into a chronic one (10-23%), compliance leads to permanent oppression of one of the partners and an imbalance in the relationship (7%). The way of mutual concessions is more productive, even if you first need to “cool down” and break dishes (7%). Cooperation is the best when the family is looking for a solution that suits everyone to resolve family conflicts. The answers show that 40% of respondents choose this difficult but most effective way.

The search for a balance to get out of the conflict involving four areas such as physical (sensation and perception), activity (mind and actions), social (contacts, the experience of elders) and intuitive (forecast of the future, search for solutions) leading to the replenishment of psychological resources of each family member. This can be facilitated by delicious food, adequate physical activity, communication with family and friends, watching movies, and reading books.”